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8 basic rules of my day-to-day life

I am writing this post after a really long time. Almost after a year!! And it feels so good to write down what i think , what i feel. Last year taught me so many things... Some of the lessons I had to re-learn ..And it can be understood..Being an Arien I tend to repeat the same mistakes again and again !! These are the things learned from my own experiences and also from the experiences of my very dear friends. I am going to write those down , point by point (Yeah ..Engineering inculcated the "bullets-system" in me ) . Some of them are silly , some are really useful (at least for me) Nonetheless I would like to pen them down for only reason that I don't want to forget them ever ...

1) Friends are inseparable part of your life but a line should be maintained irrespective of how close he/she is. The line varies from person to person. I believe that this line keeps the friendship healthy. For me line means, not probing into my friend's personal life unless told, not giving unasked advices and not to support him/her in any wrong deeds irrespective of how close he/she is. If he/she is your 'true' friend and knows you then he/she would understand.

Friendship can become critical at a point but if you stick to the 'line-rules' then there is hardly anything to worry about.

2) Always always believe in yourself. No matter what anyone tells you. Why others have to convince you, of your own abilities? If you feel low, take a walk in the fresh air and remember all the things you have achieved till date. Stop dwelling on the mistakes done in the past..Believe me, you waste your time and in the end, end-up regretting the time wasted brooding over the problem that cannot be mended!! What I want to say is, dont wait for anyone to sympathize with you and move ahead without wasting any further time.

3) Take out time for your family. Especially your parents. Even if you feel they are not understanding you. The generation gap is always going to be there. Deal with it. And sometime give them priority over friends and office work.

4)Dont take the office work to home. When you return home , make sure that you are present there not only physically but also mentally. Dont bore you family members by narrating them what happened in the office unless it's interesting.

5)Even if you have a girlfriend/boyfriend dont make them your priority. I am not saying, ignore them but at the same time dont neglect yourself. Once in a while do what you like , follow your hobbies. Thinking about him/her all the time doesn't make your relationship successful.

6)Try to form opinions about all things. You dont have to announce them every now and then. But it is good to have them. So if later things dont turn out the way you imagined them , you understand the flaw in your thought process and your understanding of the surroundings.

7)At any point in your life there will always be some set of people whom you like more than yourself , keep them closer. Some people you will hate to the core, ignore them (but never hurt them by saying silly things..You might regret it later) .Some people will refuse to grow up , ignore them forever.

8)Appreciate people once in a while. Show them what they mean to you.

Give gifts to people on their birthday..Size of the gift doesnt matter!!

After writing all the 8 points , i realized that they are repetition of what people have already been saying over the years ... But then again ..they still matter to me as I took 25 years to realize the meaning they wanted to convey... Hopefully these 8 learnings will make my next 25 years more enjoyable and worthy!!